How many times have you failed at reaching a goal even if its something you really want? I share my own personal story of how I went from failure to victory.
I purchased a bike last year and started riding for the first time in 20 years. I wanted to get healthy and socialize. My goal was to be able to ride in a bike club with my friends by the fall. I failed at reaching my goals. Here’s how I turned my story of failure into a victory. Owning Versus Excuses
My friends in the bike club routinely ride 25 miles a day. I was invited to join them last year but I made excuses rather than admitting the idea terrified me! I told myself it’s too hot or too cold; I can’t keep up; I will embarrass myself; I’m not as fit as them; I don’t have the right equipment; I’ll go next time…and the excuses went on as the summer went by.
Changing to a Winning Mindset
This year my friend asked me to go on a ‘short ride’ with just a few people. I felt the rush of fear run through my body. Excuses began running through my head. It would have been so easy to get out of it. Instead, I chose to own my insecurities. The key in changing my mindset was to admit out loud I was afraid. I told my friend how nervous I was and why. She reassured me and said they all needed to start somewhere. She believed in me and was going to be there to support me.
Grab the Opportunity
The day arrived and it took me an hour and a half to get dressed. I’d never ridden in cooler weather or in a group. I was still afraid and the excuses were running through my head. I reminded myself this was my chance to get what I wanted in the long run – fit, healthy, and riding with a group. If I said no, they probably wouldn’t ask me again. After all, what’s the worst that could happen? I walk up a few hills, right?
So, this is What Victory Feels Like?
We met at a ball diamond. Again, I admitted I was nervous and the other bikers were all encouraging. Saying my fears out loud took the power out of them and gave me more confidence.
Suddenly, we took off going east instead of west as planned. I asked my friend what was east? She said it was a park. It hit me, my ‘short ride’ wasn’t going to be so short. I forged ahead and tried not to think about how far we were going. Eleven miles later, we returned to the ballpark. I was so proud of myself, I made it 11 miles! I thanked them for pushing me as I would not have gone that far on my own. That’s why teams are so important.
I faced my insecurities and now have the confidence to ride farther next time. To get better, I had to quit worrying about what others had accomplished or might think if I failed and start working on my own goals. If I wanted to soar with eagles, I needed to let them lead me beyond my comfort zone.
What will keep me going? Remembering how good victory feels.
Jean
Jean Brownlie is an independent contractor, consultant and trainer for WorkerSmarts LLC. Contact Jean at [email protected] to learn how she can help you move from failure to victory.
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